from the publisher

My designer refers to each of our issues in num-bers, with October being 162. Looking back to our first issue in April 2010, with only 16 pages, we’ve come a long way. Initially, it took some convincing for advertisers to try something new, but we were so grateful to the ones who were immediately convinced of the magazine’s value and who have remained so throughout the years.

A woman recently contacted me to tell me how much she loves the magazine. An insur-

ance company vice president said something similar. Their feedback and the wonderful opportunities to share and learn are the source of my inspiration.

Buffalo Healthy Living has become a quality health and lifestyle resource that also includes a weekly half-hour prime-time television show, supported by strong digital and social media outlets. In fact, every one of the articles that appear in our magazine is now included on our website.

Most importantly, as the magazine has evolved, so have I. And like all lessons, some haven’t been easy. Marcy Abramsky, LCSW, in writing fo the magazine this month, says, “Forgiveness is vastly unique for eople at different stages, and requires understanding past events and actions so that we can change the course of our present and future.” I agree with her, and ask anyone I have ever inadvertently offended in e past to forgive me. After all, we are on a unique journey to become the best people we can.

Thank you for reading Buffalo Healthy Living and enjoy the beautiful scents and colors of October!

Annette Pinder


By Marcy Abramsky, LCSW


for you, not for them.

Many people struggle with forgiveness – forgiving themselves and forgiving others. So, when a question on social media asked whether mental health professionals agree or disagree with the statement by Oprah Winfrey that, “For-giveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different.” it got me thinking.

At first, I thought, “No, I don’t agree with the 50% of people who b-lieve this. However, after greater reflection, I had mor thoughts.

  1. Th statement still contains a lot of emotion.
  2. Forgiveness can be vastly unique for people at different stages.
  3. Forgiveness requires the power to understand and accept events of the past.
  4. The very act of forgiving and acknowledging the past empowers us to change the course of our present and future.
  5. We no longer need to hold onto any anger or emotions attached to past events.
  6. Forgiveness is what propels us as we move forward.

So, here is my challenge to you to try at home.

Can you think of a time that the past felt as though it was getting in the way of your future?

  1. Think of the self-limiting beliefs that held you back due to a past experience.
  2. What impact did it have on you?
  3. Can you imagine letting go of the fear, anger, or emotion that is attached to the past?
  4. How do you feel?
    Mary Abramsky, LCSW is a licensed clinical social worker who offers individual, family, and group counseling, as they explore their core issues to achieve a healthy, fulfilling life. Reach her at https:// or 716-791-7848.